What are you tolerating in your life?

Posted by Scott on Oct 25, 2010 in Coaching, Healing, Learning, Magic | 0 comments

I realized that I skipped around a bit with Julia Stewart’s Free Coach Training program, and completely forgot about the module – What Drives Your Client. Interestingly, it was probably the Universe or my Higher Self that allowed me to take this module right at this time.

A great exercise in this module is to List 20 things in your life that you are “tolerating.” These are the things that are happening or that you are putting up with that aren’t allowing your life to move forward, or to pull you forward.

Here’s a portion of my list.

I’m Tolerating:

1. Not having an organized office space at home
2. Not having enough furniture to feel I could entertain guests
3. Not having a clean or uncluttered space to meditate or do yoga
4. How every flat surface in my apartment starts collecting piles of paper

So, these were all environmental influences on me that were keeping me a little stuck in feeling motivated.  The clutter, disorganization, and arrangement of my living space just wasn’t in line with how I wanted to live.

Exploring Ethics

Posted by Scott on Oct 20, 2010 in Coaching, Learning | 0 comments

I have a feeling that this topic could turn into a series of blog posts, simply because of the importance of ethics in doing business.

In the first “Do The Right Thing” module in the Free Coach Training program, we learn about the International Association of Coaches (IAC) and their Code of Ethics. As well, participants in this recording have great discussions about the different certifying bodies out there for coaches, their codes of ethics, and how they certify coaches and/or accredit or license schools.

In both my hats as a holistic practitioner and a web designer, I’ve taken countless hours to research state and organizational codes of ethics, as well as develop my own that I do business by and share with my clients. However, for me, there are some sticky ethical dilemmas that occur when Ethics, Specialization, Credentialism, Licensing, Accreditation, Competency, and Freedom to practice a profession come into play.

I practiced as a massage therapist for 10 years in the State of Minnesota. Minnesota is one of five states in the United States that have a “Freedom of Access/Freedom to Practice” law in place for alternative and complimentary healing practitioners. Massage Therapists are required to follow the laws and regulations outlined in Chapter 146A of the State of Minnesota Code. There are strong Regulations for practicing a healing art in Minnesota, with many consumer protections in place, yet there is not a statewide License which restricts the practice of massage therapy. Massage Therapists are free to practice as Unlicensed Complimentary and Alternative Healthcare Practitioners, and the State of Minnesota does not regulate curriculum or coursework. Practitioners must disclose all of their training and experience on a Client Bill of Rights and may only practice within the bounds of their training. But it can be through apprenticeship, hands-on individualized study, training from a school, or training from abroad – so long as this training is disclosed. There is also a consumer office in the State which can receive and investigate complaints, which has the power to discipline a practitioner – even to the point of barring them from practice.

What does this mean as far as Coaching and this path I’m on?

Personally, I enjoy the freedom to learn from a variety of sources to build my own level of Competency. I appreciate laws and regulations (even codes of ethics) which allow me the breadth and freedom to build my own portfolio and unique skillset. Don’t get me wrong. I believe that everyone needs good training and education to be effective in many careers. However, I believe that there are many paths to gaining extensive and effective education and training that can bring about success.

One line that I always look for in a professional organization’s code of ethics is that of “honoring all paths” within a profession. This can be hard to find when a profession becomes largely regulated with curriculum standards, licensing, and accreditation of schools. An honoring of all paths and lineages can embrace both competency and curriculum, and allow multiple entry points into a career.

Imagine if I lived in rural Minnesota – lets say International Falls. The closest physical “school” for maybe coaching, massage therapy, etc, might be well over 300 miles away, or a closer school might exist in the province of Manitoba in Canada. Or perhaps I could learn the same skills over the internet or from a coach trainer that is only 30 miles away? Imagine the costs involved if I needed to attend a physical “accredited or licensed” school that might be 300 miles away, and I was required to have 100 hours or more of only their coursework. What if I had a family to take care of? What if I lacked transportation to take me to this school? What if I attended this school and could not afford the perhaps $500 licensing fee from the State in order to practice (after I had spent a ton of money on travel, expenses, coursework, books, etc). I could be the most effective coach in the world, but I’d be excluded and barred from practicing.

I’m very encouraged that the IAC provides their mastery certification based on COMPETENCY rather than number of “clock hours” of education, where I received my education, and whether or not this school was licensed or accredited or not. I also believe that our customers and clients expect both competency and consumer protection.

Does consumer protection have to come from licensing, accreditation, or stringent curriculum standards, or can there be freedom to practice within good local, state, and regional regulation?

What makes a great coach? Where and what training they received (and how much), or how effective, competent, and ethical they might be?

Personal Paradigms for Coaches

Posted by Scott on Oct 18, 2010 in Coaching, Healing, Learning | 0 comments

Psst.. I decided to put the blog post on “Global Paradigms” on my HolisticGeek.com blog (where I do my web-design related work)! No, I didn’t jump ahead!

If I could reflect and sum up the lessons coming forward for me in this module of the Free Coach Training program, they would be:

• It pays to collaborate rather than compete
• Too much energy is spent on FEAR and Blame, and
• Be of service to something BIGGER than yourself

Now, I have to admit, that sometimes I ride along the edges of these paradigms, just holding on!  I don’t really believe in competition, however, I’ve learned that I play best as a soloprenuer rather than a collaborator on a team.  Maybe it’s just my working style, because I love to engage a lot of my diverse skills.  Maybe there is a small “fear” of letting go of tasks, responsibility, or the thought that I might lose my identity in the process of sharing and collaborating too much.

There have been times I’ve “walked out” of collaborative situations because I felt that they weren’t resonating with my goals or personal ideals – sometimes even very NOBLE causes or projects.  I think too, that there is definitely a learned skill at navigating collaboration so that everyone wins, no one person takes on too much, and everyone has their needs met throughout the process.  So I’m hopeful.  I do like to be the one in charge of my own destiny, and definitely I have more of a collaborative relationship with my clients.  But so far, I’ve realized that I work better on my own.

People are imperfect and they fail.  They fail a lot!  I include myself in the “people” I’m talking about!

Deciding to not live in Fear however – I believe that this is the biggest lesson of all for healing to come about in an individual, group, family, etc.  In all of my experience, I’ve benefited so much more from being courageous rather than fearful.

Fear and Blame are evil twins!  In my mind, they travel around together like a Yin-Yang style bowling ball!  Sometimes it’s easier to give up, not take any risk, throw up our hands and say something like “Well, it’s the ECONOMY.  That’s why I’m can’t make more money.”   Then we just throw our dreams in the gutter.  And conversely, sometimes when there’s no one left to blame, we simply blame ourselves and stay stuck in our fear, and we don’t move forward.  We don’t even step up to play.  It’s time for a new bowling ball I think!

If we just got out of our internal and external “blame game” and spent our energy on possible solutions, even if we failed at a few attempts, maybe we’d be propelled into success FASTER!

Finally, being of service to something bigger than ourselves, to me, opens up some new possibilities.  Even for me currently, I’m very steeped in my own research and thinking about the concepts of Indigo Children and Indigo Adults, that some of my old ways of thinking are being challenged, and I’m thinking of some new possibilities in actively reaching out to these communities.  I’m starting to see that regardless of the definitions or labels we put on children with special sensitivities, that they need positive adults in their corners, and others who will help to build structures and alternate institutions that benefit rather than hinder them.

So, while I’m still a work in progress, feeling more comfortable in a solo role in my work, some great inspiration is poking through within these wonderful Personal Paradigms for me!

We Create the Universe

Posted by Scott on Oct 13, 2010 in Coaching, Learning, Magic | 0 comments

It’s time for me to kick things into a higher gear with the Free Coach Training program. The first open exam period has passed, and 31 new coaches have passed the exam! Congrats to those new coaches!

I just finished the Universal Paradigms class, and of course, LOVED IT! (No surprise.)

A few of the things I took away from the class, in the form of quotes:

“The Universe is not only stranger than we know, it’s stranger than we CAN know.”

And yet.. at the same time.. “We create the Universe.”  (cue the music to 2001: A Space Oddessy)

Ok! Read that again! Let’s now talk about embracing a big black hole of Paradox!

I can barely talk about this, really, as there isn’t much of a language to talk about this paradox, but I’ll try.  So, the human mind, which is part of our human body, a small and insignificant speck in the universe, is insignificant, yet important!  Our minds and consciousness HAVE to be held as important, if we can indeed create a Universe that is both “stranger than we know” and “stranger than we can know.”  Could there be something more at play?  Are we in fact limiting ourselves by our small and insignificant “size” in the massive Universe?  Our holographic nature and observation actually collapse the wave-form of our very Universe, so that we can discover it, look at it, measure it, etc.  Can it be that all of us simply ARE the Universe waking up to itself?  Are we simply projections of energy in carbon-based bodies, here to collect data, co-create the Universe, observe and collapse wave functions, and all the while have fun just not understanding?  Hmm..  Ponder that for as long as you like.

I’ve often said to people that “I would rather live a life Discovered than a life of planning.”  And all the while, in reality (or.. not..) we create the Universe that we discover (or.. don’t..).  Or we do and don’t at the same time..

Coming down to Earth for a moment.  What I think I really took away from this, was the thought that “OF COURSE WE’RE MORE.”  We’re more than just people out wandering about.  We’re more than the sum of our experience.  We’re more than our relationships, our thoughts, emotions, etc.

We are more than we know, and we’re more than we CAN know.

For me, when I start to embrace this and believe it, doors start opening up for me.  I’m able to choose something different or shift my thinking.  I’m able to feel more connected to the Universe and whatever “grand scheme” might be “out there” or coming from my very co-creative consciousness.  I feel more connectedness somehow when I think that I’m more than “what I am.”    And perhaps any clients, friends, family members, or colleagues we have might benefit in the same way if we passed on this information or “blueprint” into thinking and perceiving ourselves.

So, what might you choose differently if you knew and felt deeply in your consciousness that you were MORE than what you knew, and MORE than what you could know?  Would you do the same thing you are doing now?  Could you navigate the Universe (that you knew you created) with more ease?  Would you need to find a way out of the Paradox?  How would you “show up” every day of your life if you knew and felt this?

…Ponder THAT for a while!

Metaphysical Paradigms and the Integral Age

Posted by Scott on Sep 27, 2010 in Coaching, Healing, Learning | 3 comments

After a very busy last two weeks, I have finally started on a new set of classes for The School of Coaching Mastery’s Free Coach Training Program. This one is about New Paradigms for coaches, and outlines the Metaphysical Paradigm.

This is probably a paradigm that I receive a lot of my knowledge and attitudes about “truth”, concepts of God and the divine, Spirituality, and Consciousness. Also, the mention that we are now, in the 21st century, living in what many now call the “Integral Age.” This is a time of integration, of both/and, of cross-pollenation of ideas, and where many of the problems we are facing in the world can’t be as easily answered by the paradigms of science, government, rational thought, or institutions.

In some of my work, I talk about the concept of “A River Between.” The idea that “when boulders of institutions no longer serve us, we need to find that ‘river between’ as a means of navigation. As a river winds around to easily flow to it’s source, it is also working to carve new paths – and to erode the landscape, or even ‘dissolve’ the very boulders in its path.”

My river wants to flow out of the “old age” of Empire, Institutions, Control,etc. – and find its path into the New Age of Integration, “new truths”, and new ways of being. With this, I often identify as an “Indigo Adult” – someone who feels they have always been about the new coming change, even throughout their childhood, but couldn’t always articulate it, maybe had certain gifts and creative ventures, but didn’t feel as supported as they could have been – and so often, emotions like anger, resentment, fear, and anxiety would come up as a result of living in a world that they feel just wasn’t designed for them. They have heightened sensitivities, and are often attuned to this “metaphysical paradigm”, and are very purpose driven people above all else in their life. This makes it very hard to be “practical” in the eyes of others who might not feel the same way.

Even in 4th grade, I remember being very articulate about Jimmy Carter when he was running for president.

“Jimmy Carter is a man who loves peace and loves the earth.”

School was never a challenge for me, but I learned how to play the game, get good grades, and use that as a kind of “currency” of approval from my parents and peers. My real passions were for the arts, leadership, and helping people.

For as long as I can remember, I felt that I wanted to “change the world.” From a conversation I had with someone a few weeks back, we agreed that “saving the world” just wasn’t an option anymore. “Changing” the world implies that old paradigms and ways of being will fall away to make way for the new. “Saving” seemed to us more about the old age of Empire, Institutions, control, fear, etc.

I’ll have to talk more soon about Indigo Adults and Indigo Children. But for now, I wanted to just brush the surface about what’s coming up for me as I keep progressing through this course!

Amazing insights, indeed!

This is probably mostly what the “New Paradigms for Coaches” is bringing up for me most of all. I’ve even spoken it out loud to someone that “Down the road when I get more coaching experience I’d like to start an ‘Indigo Adults Support Group’ and apply my skills.”

My Personal “Greatness”

Posted by Scott on Sep 12, 2010 in Coaching, Healing, Learning | 0 comments

I finished class 4 of the Coaching Groundwork section of the Free Coach Training Program by the School of Coaching Mastery last week. I have to say however, that the past week has been challenging for me. No, the class isn’t challenging, but rather, finding out that sometimes I revert to what Julia Stewart calls the “small self” – those times when I “cop out” or am not in my “Greatness” or “higher” self.

Perhaps it’s the day-to-day stress we all endure, or how popular culture, the media, or consumerism can somehow trick us into thinking that we “aren’t good enough” as we are. I’m not sure why it’s so easy for me to slip into the “small self” at times, but this week was a sure exercise in trying to spot those times for me.

In my other “hat” as a Reiki Master Teacher, I often talk to students about the concept of a “healing crisis” or a “healing situation” – a time when all of the new and great energies are rushing in, and all of a sudden a person becomes ill, has a spell of strong emotional release, or an unexpected sadness or “negative” emotion or feeling surfaces. I tell them that it is perfectly natural, and it’s part of the process. For some people, these things need to surface in order for them to be healed or transformed into the “new whole” that’s emerging.

I guess I’m not an exception.

All in all, I think that this development and transformation are just wonderful processes to go through, and really – I think I’m a bit stronger than I was just a month back when I was beginning this journey. Maybe that’s the point. Maybe it’s all part of the progression to becoming an effective coach. Maybe I have to learn to like “maybes” in my life and live with uncertainty.

Maybe that’s a greater lesson that builds my “greater” self.